"Bluechulappa" I'm in a similar situation regarding the FJ. Funny my dad has a Tundra and he loves it
The most recent cars I've owned have been quite small. I wanted to get something a bit bigger. I was set on the honda ridgeline, but gave the fj a test. I know they are completely different vehicles, but both have great attributes. The fj was a lot more fun to drive

, but can be argued to be less practical

(devils advocate situation)
Regarding your questions, after test driving the fj on several occasions, it seems to be built like a tank. I know wanted responses from actual owners, but it seems like a very well put together vehicle.
You may want to check out my thread as well, some good stuff posted.
The title is as follows: "Thinking of a purchasing a FJ, got a few questions?? "
Joe