Don't remove the tie rod. Unbolt the bottom control arm from the spindle and slightly separate them, you will have enough room to thread the coilovers out from the bottom far enough to put your spacers on the top.
x2 on what 1911 said! I have installed several 3" lifts and have never removed the tie rods. There are two 19mm bolts on each side. I am pointing to the front silver bolt on the driver's side in below pic. Sorry for the crappy cell pic: