I bought mine with 91K on it and it looks brand new. If it wasn't for the odometer, you'd never know it had that many miles. I had a 4Runner before that and it didn't look nearly as nice at similar mileage.
Absolutely not an 4Runner issue. I had my 4Runner for almost 15 years and it was a beast. The only issue I ever had with it was when a service station failed to tighten the lug nuts and the wheel almost came off when I was driving up 95N at 80 mpg. They later told me that they didn't realize their "compressor was broken". Almost cost me my life. After this, it never drove right. I had it balanced numerous times after this at several different service centers and we could never fix the issue. But this had zero to do with the vehicle. Like I said, it was a beast. Cosmetically, it took a hit when we added an addition on our house. Lots of wear and tear. But overall, it was a great car. Couldn't ask for anything more.Guess you did not treat your prior 4Runner as well as the prior owner of your FJ did. Probably a lesson there as it is not a 4Runner issue. We are on our 3rd 4Runner and they all have aged gracefully as they were properly maintained.