I know exaclty what you're saying. On my suspension I went with the following:
OME883 front springs. "Leveled". Well, now the rear was low. So I went to CornfedSuspensions.com and got a 1" spacer for the rear.
THEN, I went with the OME 3" spsension kit which included OME 884 front springs plus rear springs. Again, a level 3" lift kit.
Lucky for me I still had those 1" rear spacers. They are still under my rear springs. So I have a slight rake (not as much as stock), yet with a 3" lift under it. I feel it's a perfect balance. And I've had the truck loaded-up. At worst, it's right at what appears to be "level". I think a truly leveled out FJ looks nose-high to me. Just doesn't fit. Like the old 4Runner's.
Anyway, you're thinking right. Don't let the front-end=stiffer=better crowd sway you.